As the father of a daughter in college, I see her growing up as an assertive, confident Asian American women with her whole life ahead of her.
I see her making a difference in the world, realizing her potential as an independent leader having a positive impact on society.
I don’t want anything to hold her back, and if anything gets in her way, I want to help break down those barriers.
It’s something most fathers would want to do for their daughters.
An article in Everyday Feminism by Rachel Kuo lists the five ways Asian woman fetishes put Asian women in serious danger.
It’s a reminder of the sexist barriers facing Asian American women today.
I won’t repeat the five reasons here. You can read her article for that.
However, I do want to say something as a father.
My daughter is a wonderful human being with endless potential and a whole world to conquer.
She’s a warmhearted young woman full of joy, warmth and vigor.
Stereotypes that demean her as a sexual object at the service of her male masters, often times White males, are mean spirited and counter productive.
I sometimes read comments on social media from women who say they’ve been able to turn these stereotypes to their advantage.
I’ve read comments from Asian American men who resent the social privilege granted to Asian women on dating sites and in society in general.
The trouble with these stereotypes of Asian American women is they take a grain of truth and twist that truth in a way that takes a person’s individuality away and turns them into some sort of perverted fantasy.
It serves to divide Asian American men and women in a way that only benefits those who would rather see the Asian American community as weak and subservient.
Turning someone into a fetish benefits no one and it certainly doesn’t benefit the people the women being stereotyped.
Read Kuo’s article in Everyday Feminism and let us know what you think.