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Venmo John Gives Up on Long Distance Relationship on Bachelor in Paradise

John and Olivia in Bachelor in Paradise

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John Grahams’ grand adventure is over. John, aka Venmo John, was looking for love, but instead, he ended up with a lonely heart and he has no one to blame but himself.

For a while, it looked like Graham was the most likable and potentially the best catch among all the single guys in Paradise. John has become THE most eligible bachelor in Paradise, going on dates with almost all of the women. Chelsea and Angela gave him roses, he kissed Kendall, and he has gone on dates with Caroline, Jubilee, Olivia, and Christen.

He loved corny Dad jokes, had his own cooking show on Youtube, and he was a nice guy, not so into himself and respectful of the women on the show as human beings, not as trophies. Beside, he was rich, since he was one of the original employees of Venmo who reportedly hit the jackpot when that popular app was bought by Apple.

Graham was the only bachelor who managed to leave Bachelor In Paradise before the Fantasy Suite dates and not leave his girl, Olivia Goethals, in tears. They left Paradise holding hands in agreement to work on their relationship in real life.

We learned during the reunion show that after filming had ended, the long-distance dating didn’t work well, since the couple lived on opposite coasts.

“Ummm. After Paradise, we Facetimed a lot,” she said on the reunion show last Monday. “We spent the weekend together and it was going really, really good. Then a few weeks ago, you told me that you just want to be friends and I totally understand. Long distance sucks, but I felt like if you wanted to make it work, you would have made that effort.”

“I’ve never been in a long distance relationship before and for me, it felt like our different lifestyles couldn’t make that work right now,” John said in defense.

“Then when I saw you like publicizing that you were developing other relationships and that was with Chelsea [Roy]” continued Olivia “… that you were like Facetiming her.”

Ahhh, the pitfalls of social media.

John had no retort and Chelsea remained silent, albeit slightly red-faced. But their silence spoke volumes.

And just like that, John went from Mr. Nice Guy to two-timing Lothario.

The San Francisco bachelor went further than any other Asian American man in the TV world of bachelors and bachelorettes, only to find his nice-guy image tarnished in the finale of Bachelors in Paradise. Until Graham, no Asian American man has lasted beyond the first episode of The Rachelor; and no Asian American man has appeared in its spinoff, Bachelor in Paradise.

John, Bibliana and Olivia on Bachelor in Paradise
John, Bibiana & Olivia on Bachelor in Paradise. ABC Photo

Why would John agree to go on the show? Based on his social media, he has loads of friends, seems to socially concious… and, did I mention? He’s rich.

It looks like it was a lark although he was hoping to actually find love. But, he was able to tell producers of the Bachelor franchise:

“I feel like the show has been doing a much better job recently of representing folks that haven’t been historically represented. I come from an Asian background and it’s really cool to see me up there, because I don’t think there’s been many like this before. It’s really exciting. I was just texting some of the producers before [the taping] saying that this is amazing. I’ve gotten so much support from people I don’t know that just congratulate me and say, ‘John, I’m really inspired by your story because I am also Asian,’ or ‘I am also a computer science major. You made me really excited seeing you up there and confident.’ That’s really awesome if you can step away from this and, leaving the Bachelor part aside, you can feel good about your background, personality and culture just because you’ve seen someone on TV.

Perhaps for Bachelor/Bachlorette contestants, the possibility of finding love is enough motivation to possibly risk embarrassing oneself in front of the whole world.

“I am in love – and, my God, it is the greatest thing that can happen to a man. I tell you, find a woman you can fall in love with. Do it. Let yourself fall in love. If you have not done so already, you are wasting your life.” — D. H. Lawrence

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